There’s a story I tell A LOT to heart-led, service-centred entrepreneurs and coaches who have been going around in circles and struggling to make real money in their business for a while, but honestly, it's relevant to everyone who is trying to achieve success of any kind in their lives. Before I worked with entrepreneurs I worked with postgraduates, and it was just as valuable to them too.
Everybody needs to hear this, at least once. I needed to hear it once too, a long time ago when I was a masters student. And you deserve to hear it too.
It comes from Art & Fear: Observations on the perils (and rewards) of artmaking (D. Bayles and T. Orland 2012).
And an art teacher. Who split his class into two groups. One would be graded on QUALITY. To get an A+ they each needed one perfect pot.
The other group was to be graded on QUANTITY. They needed about 50 lbs each of pottery to get that gold star grade, but the good news was those pots could be sh*t. As long as it was...
We live in a culture of fast content. And that means most people's manifesting has actually been a bit of a hotch-potch. Yes, there are lots of courses out there, but they're mostly offered by people who are hoping to manifest their success by teaching you to manifest your success.
Whilst it's not always a bad thing, for someone who is a little further forwards to teach others, it's not always a good thing either. There are huge pieces of the conversation around what manifesting really is, and how the material and immaterial world around us fit into it, when everyone is working with the same few people and teaching the same few techniques over and over again. As someone with a PhD on mindset and manifesting (an actual PhD, not a self-proclaimed one) which I manifested that troubles me. When I say I manifested it, I mean I manifested an incredible history of funding and research prizes, and contributions to my field that allowed to me choose the PhD topic and supervisors...
Let's cut right to the jugular here. If you want to know whether your vision board will work, you have to start by looking at your beliefs.
By and large, we get the reality we believe in. We might not get all of it all of the time, but our beliefs shape our actions, reality and identity a great deal. It's why the placebo effect heals us, and the opposite nocebo effect harms us, and it's been a big part of my doctoral research and ongoing research and work.
At the deepest level, though we often don't realise it, all beliefs are choices. We choose them, craft them, curate them and recommit to them (good and bad) every day through our practices. Keeping hold of beliefs that don't serve us just doesn't make sense, and yet most of us do it.
Why? Because we don't know they're beliefs - to us, our beliefs are the landscape of our reality. A great many of them come to us wholesale, as part of a cultural package (e.g. about what women can/can't do), others come from our...