Have you ever been overwhelmed by the feeling that you 'just do not know enough' to stand and be counted in your own field? That it's only a matter of ticking time until you are exposed as a terrible fraud?
You are not alone.
This could be Imposter Syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome has become a rather trendy term recently with all the pop psychologists and armchair coaches jumping on it to show off their brilliant trending insight. However, as always I'd like to take a much closer look because although Google will yield many results for the term, no-one (at least to my satisfaction) is addressing this from a particularly authentic point of deep understanding - the experience of Imposter Syndrome is far more nuanced than most appear to comprehend.
Perhaps this is because it's trendy - and so it's talked about in an iterative way. Perhaps it's also because, as you will see, there is a parallel problem that requires understanding real self-doubt, not the...
There’s a story I tell A LOT to heart-led, service-centred entrepreneurs and coaches who have been going around in circles and struggling to make real money in their business for a while, but honestly, it's relevant to everyone who is trying to achieve success of any kind in their lives. Before I worked with entrepreneurs I worked with postgraduates, and it was just as valuable to them too.
Everybody needs to hear this, at least once. I needed to hear it once too, a long time ago when I was a masters student. And you deserve to hear it too.
It comes from Art & Fear: Observations on the perils (and rewards) of artmaking (D. Bayles and T. Orland 2012).
And an art teacher. Who split his class into two groups. One would be graded on QUALITY. To get an A+ they each needed one perfect pot.
The other group was to be graded on QUANTITY. They needed about 50 lbs each of pottery to get that gold star grade, but the good news was those pots could be sh*t. As long as it was...
What if your perceived comfort is actually the very thing that creates the discomfort in your life?
The notion of stepping 'out of your comfort zone' is nothing new - but for many making this move is often easier said than done. It feels like a safe place of walls and barriers - but it’s actually a self-made prison. I call them discomfort zones and only by finding the thresholds to go beyond, to the version of you who you will become, can you cross those barriers. It's time to burst that (over)protective 'bubble'.
Despite its name, your 'Comfort Zone' isn't necessarily a comfortable or happy place. Think about this... how many people do you know who are actually surprisingly comfortable residing in a space of intolerance, anger, or self-pity - and refuse to leave such spaces despite being miserable. Also, how about those who seek out and thrive in high stress environments.
So, why does recognising the boundaries of our comfort zones matter? Because this is...
We all love TED talks, right? But with over 15,000 TED and TEdx presentations to choose from it can be hard to know where to start and there's no real guarantee of stumbling onto the right ones. That's why I've put together this list of the some of the best talks for who are ready to get to grips with the reality that manifesting is so much more than writing out some affirmations from time to time.
Real manifesting isn't like writing a wish list for Santa, it's about who you are day in, day out. We we make ourselves in the things we do all day every day. My doctoral research looks at how our whole identity and even our reality is co-created with the universe around us, through the way we relate to the people, place and things around us. It's an embodied experience. So just "doing" the steps of manifesting like making a vision board generally doesn't change our realities very much.
On the other hand, you can rapidly change your reality by recognising that the true...
We live in a culture of fast content. And that means most people's manifesting has actually been a bit of a hotch-potch. Yes, there are lots of courses out there, but they're mostly offered by people who are hoping to manifest their success by teaching you to manifest your success.
Whilst it's not always a bad thing, for someone who is a little further forwards to teach others, it's not always a good thing either. There are huge pieces of the conversation around what manifesting really is, and how the material and immaterial world around us fit into it, when everyone is working with the same few people and teaching the same few techniques over and over again. As someone with a PhD on mindset and manifesting (an actual PhD, not a self-proclaimed one) which I manifested that troubles me. When I say I manifested it, I mean I manifested an incredible history of funding and research prizes, and contributions to my field that allowed to me choose the PhD topic and supervisors...