Anxious thinking and anxious behaviour patterns can be very destructive and absolutely get in the way of manifesting practice. This is because they orient us toward what we do NOT want, what we fear and are trying to avoid. Totally ironic, right?
So it's actually a problem of direction - not so much the 'what' you are doing or thinking - it's the orientation of those thoughts and actions that affects the outcomes.
What if... you can turn the actual habits themselves around to our best use? You absolutely can.
Think about your anxious thoughts, physical sensations, behaviours and emotions. Not so much as worries but what matters to you. e.g. If you worry about the safety of your cat, perhaps dig down to see what that's 'all about'... perhaps it is showing you that you have a deep value for animal companionship? Or, perhaps you worry about getting along with your colleagues and boss? Perhaps instead of focussing on the fear of fitting in, you focus instead on your deep...
Have you ever been overwhelmed by the feeling that you 'just do not know enough' to stand and be counted in your own field? That it's only a matter of ticking time until you are exposed as a terrible fraud?
You are not alone.
This could be Imposter Syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome has become a rather trendy term recently with all the pop psychologists and armchair coaches jumping on it to show off their brilliant trending insight. However, as always I'd like to take a much closer look because although Google will yield many results for the term, no-one (at least to my satisfaction) is addressing this from a particularly authentic point of deep understanding - the experience of Imposter Syndrome is far more nuanced than most appear to comprehend.
Perhaps this is because it's trendy - and so it's talked about in an iterative way. Perhaps it's also because, as you will see, there is a parallel problem that requires understanding real self-doubt, not the...
What if your perceived comfort is actually the very thing that creates the discomfort in your life?
The notion of stepping 'out of your comfort zone' is nothing new - but for many making this move is often easier said than done. It feels like a safe place of walls and barriers - but it’s actually a self-made prison. I call them discomfort zones and only by finding the thresholds to go beyond, to the version of you who you will become, can you cross those barriers. It's time to burst that (over)protective 'bubble'.
Despite its name, your 'Comfort Zone' isn't necessarily a comfortable or happy place. Think about this... how many people do you know who are actually surprisingly comfortable residing in a space of intolerance, anger, or self-pity - and refuse to leave such spaces despite being miserable. Also, how about those who seek out and thrive in high stress environments.
So, why does recognising the boundaries of our comfort zones matter? Because this is...